Missing Misty Upham

Miisty Upham

Misty said to me “Dad, every time a rape victim comes forward to get justice they become the cause of the matter!” This was not the first time Misty was raped and harassed by an Executive/Producer/Director/Actor etc. And you know who you are!

She is wearing a Teal Blue Dress. Teal is the color for Sexual Assault Awareness. I don’t need to rewrite what has already been written. I have done what I do best, wrote a song about something that really touches my heart.  So that something positive can be done with the pain. But before you hear the song, read more about Missing Misty Upham.

https://www.hollywoodlanews.com/misty-upham-raped-2013-golden-globes/

Ellen Page today put out a statement about the humiliation she suffered at the hands of director Brett Ratner. Among the things she mentioned within her statement is the alleged rape of Misty Upham that her father Charles Upham posted about on Facebook on October 15.”

Here is his post:

The recent backlash with regard to Harvey Weinstein’s sexual allegations is blowing up like a NAPA Valley firestorm leaving a trail of victims in its wake. The smoke of this scandal can be seen through out the entertainment industry as many Hollywood insiders release a collective gasp. (Like you didn’t know this was going on!) The only thing bigger than the Weinstein media apocalypse is the hypocrisy that existed since the 1890’s when the casting couch, I mean movie camera was invented. Sure you now have found a sexual harassment poster boy in Weinstein that we can martyr to will ease the conscience of high society for a while. But this is not an isolated incident! This is an institutional problem that exists in in many Organizations and Corporate America including Religious Orders, Law Enforcement, Politics, Education, Federal, State and local Governments. The victims are not just women; they include men, elderly, mentally ill, children (male and female) of all races and even some animals.

My daughter, Misty Upham, was a victim of rape by a Weinstein Executive in 2013 at the Golden Globe Awards. The rapist forced her into the men’s room and had his way while other men in formal wear cheered him on as if he were chugging a beer in a contest. As Misty made the walk of shame back to the event, the Exec was given high fives, bragging rights and another notch in his Weinstein Co. belt. What should have been an auspicious occasion for Misty turned into a nightmare of pain, humiliation, fear and anxiety? Her mom and I pleaded with her to press charges since she still has the torn green dress she wore (Photo Above) with the DNA all over it. Misty was afraid to pursue charges because she knew Harvey Weinstein could protect his constituency and ruin her existence. Misty’s experience with Harvey Weinstein left her with the impression that he was a powerful man with many influential connections and could make people disappear. Once while riding in a limo with Quentin Tarantino, Harvey Weinstein and his assistant, somewhere between Salt Lake City and Park City, Utah, the assistant interrupted Weinstein and Tarantino’s conversation in a matter of urgent business; at which point Harvey Weinstein ordered the driver to stop and subsequently kicked his assistant out of the car in the middle of no where during a snow storm amidst subzero temperatures. Misty commented, “What if he freezes to death?” Weinstein retorted “ Somebody will come along and pick him up!” How could anyone expect a sincere investigation when the Weinstein’s company commander and chief is also a perpetrator? Misty said to me “Dad, every time a rape victim comes forward to get justice they become the cause of the matter!” This was not the first time Misty was raped and harassed by an Executive/Producer/Director/Actor etc. And you know who you are!

How many times have you heard the defense say things like: “She slept around with everyone.” or “She was smiling and flirting while being accosted!” or “She was dressed like a slut!” and “She knew what she was getting into but left with him anyway!” All of a sudden the rape victim become the blame in everyone’s eyes. This has been the trend now amongst Police Officers, Judges, Defenders even Prosecutors and witnesses alike. The rapist is not just a man thing either; this exercise of empowerment exists among every gender, ethnicity, age, sexual orientation and social class. The characteristic traits of these criminals are usually recognizable from childhood: A Bully, Socially Enabled, Possesses a Sense of Entitlement and Justified by partisan social circles. Sounds a lot like MANIFEST DESTINY (Google It). In many cases the crime becomes a matter of opinion and the rapist becomes the victim. It is no surprise that many rape victims stay silent. Most victims don’t report such crimes because they believe nothing will be done.

In the course of time the majority of the genders has developed a natural affection for the opposite sex or the same sex. In the ritual of courtship you may find yourself attending to your esthetic qualities in order to attract you mate. If this includes dressing provocatively, wearing makeup, flirting or even participating in a conversation that could lead to consummation. So what! That’s what people do! But nowhere in that ritual has the implied meaning been embedded that rape is ok. No means no! People are looking for a lasting relationship that is founded in love, trust and affection. Do you think a woman or her parents would want to have a relationship and have children with a person who raped her? Or would any parent brag on the fact that their child was best rapist in the family?

If Harvey Weinstein has become the poster boy of Sexual Harassment among the rich and powerful then Native American Women should exemplify the most disregarded rape victims in the Americas. According to the Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (VAWA) Indigenous Women have the highest rates of uninvestigated violent sex and abuse crimes among women per capita. Federal government studies have consistently shown that American Indian women experience much higher levels of sexual violence than other women in the U.S. Data gathered by the U.S. Department of Justice indicates that Native American and Alaskan Native women are more than 2.5 times more likely to be raped or sexually assaulted than women in the USA in general. First Nations women in Canada and Native American women in Border States like Minnesota and North Dakota have become the targets of commercial sex trade with little or no intervention from law enforcement. An intrinsic effort on the part of victims and advocacy groups was necessary to raise awareness so that Judicial, Legislative bodies and Politicians would be shamed into action on the behalf of the Native communities.

I know there are many people that will turn a blind eye, wallow in apathy or even entertain the thought of joining the ranks of sex abusers. Before you do I hope you recognize the emotional harm, life long pain and humiliation that these type of crimes bring to their victims; before you have to learn your lesson by experiencing the same type of abuse in some prison cell yourself.

Now listen to the song Missing Misty Upham by Tchiya Amet

“My name is Misty Upham (age 12), and someday you will know that name as the best living Native American actress.”

…but 20 years later, with her star on the rise after having acted in films with the likes of Meryl Streep, Julia Roberts, and Benicio Del Toro…and receiving an Independent Spirit Award nomination in 2008 for Best Supporting Actress (“Frozen River”)…her lifeless body was discovered at the end of a ravine in Washington State in 2014. She had battled depression and alcoholism in recent years, but what has remained puzzling is that her case has never been solved. Her father, Charles Upham, seeks to find answers in a documentary he’s producing and raising money for called “11 Days: The Search For Misty Upham”. #ColorYourVision


RepostBy @terraincognitamedia:
“TW: rape.
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This is Misty Upham. She was a promising young Native American starlet who was allegedly raped at the 2013 golden globe awards by an executive from an infamous distribution company in the men’s bathroom, WHILE A GROUP OF MEN CHEERED HER RAPIST ON. She never came forward for fear of her career and her life. About a year later she went missing and was later found dead. It was ruled a suicide, even though the autopsy stated that the cause of death was several blunt force trauma injuries to her head and torso. Her name was not spoken at the Golden Globes this year, and I think it is important that people know who she is. This picture is from the night she was allegedly raped, she was wearing that green dress. She had the green dress at the time she disappeared. The dress had DNA evidence on it. #goldenglobes#timesup #jezebel#harveyweinstein#quentintarantino #mistyupham#sayhername @oprah #hollywood#weinsteincompany #rapeawareness#rainn
https://www.cbsnews.com/…/juliette-lewis-misty-upham-feare…/

regram @yaaaschef @indigenousgoddessgang”
(via #InstaRepost @EasyRepost)

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Juliette Lewis: Misty Upham feared being murdered

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Upham Family’s Shocking Statement: ‘Misty Was Murdered by Two Men’

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I am still in shock that the same week that I spoke out/posted about being raped by Neil Tyson,  Misty was missing, and running for her life, because someone found out that she still had that teal blue dress with DNA specimens on it. Perhaps this is why I had to write the song. I know that it was given to me by one of Our Lakota Ancestors.

This was her last tweet….

Here is the video slideshow with the song.

 
It is Good to Share Knowledge and Truth. Even when it is Tragic and Sad.

Aho.

Tchiya Amet El Maat

From First Base to Rape

In response to an article by Teresa Jusino:

What Aziz Ansari’s “Apology” Says About How Men View Their Encounters With Women

https://www.themarysue.com/aziz-ansari-apology/

This is a very interesting article, because it deals with first base that unfortunately some men take to mean home run. Even at my age and after all I have experienced, even saying “take it slow”, “I really like you, but lets wait til we get to know each other better”, “let’s go to couples counseling before going further,” things can still go too fast. Even if you say “not now”, the very thing you do not want, is what you get. Then you are stuck with trying to transform this violation into a relationship. But in reality, it was a violation. It will always feel like a violation. No matter how much you like the person, no matter how pleasurable, it was still against your wishes…. and can never give you a real relationship.

What do we as women have to do before our feelings wishes intentions are heard and respected? Obviously keeping women covered from head to toe does not make things better. Why does kissing, dancing, affection, a conversation, an energetic connection or attraction, a glass of wine or a beer, a glass of water, give a man the right to TAKE what could eventually be offered with love, integrity and consciousness? Why is this behavior accepted tolerated and yet not discussed? Why are people looking forward to movies where this scene is played out over and over but not addressed in society? Why are rapists in public office? Making movies? Running planetariums and talking about the Cosmos on television? Because we live in a #rapeculture . Because the average person is addicted to violence and enjoys the privilege of convenience that comes about due to the suffering of others. Because the average spiritually enslaved person is so jaded, so disconnected from Spirit that they are able to block out the pain of their global family members. Do we need to take a witness or a referee when we decide to be alone with a man?

Basically, we go against ourselves in that moment out of fear of what that boy will do if you actually punch him or kick him or just keep saying no. He could get angry, or stop talking to you altogether. If he is not hearing you, then maybe you go along with it so that he will stop HARASSING you, or might you get raped, or end up dead. Sometimes after reporting rape, especially if it was by a celebrity, it gets much worse and you end up dead at the hands of authorities trying to keep you silent like #MistyUpham. Or maybe you just accept a glass of water, with no interest in sex or affection, and because you have been rendered unconscious, are not even in a position where you can say, ” No way in hell do I want to have sex with you. You are ugly and gross. Do not touch me.”

I want you to see that it only takes one second to go from “Not Tonite” to DEAD ON ARRIVAL, because we cannot control men once the monster in them has been activated. This is what needs to change, from birth, we need to raise boys to be Actual Men, not predators. But these days, sexual predators control every aspect of the game in this rape culture. For Women, there is nowhere to run. Fortunately in this day and time, for Rapists and Sexual Predators, there is nowhere to hide either.

For more info,

End the Silence, End the Violence Chapter 6: Austin, Texas 1983-1984: I Survived RAPE by Neil de Grasse Tyson; The Blue Lotus Speaks!

https://tchiya.wordpress.com/2014/10/08/end-the-silence-end-the-violence-chapter-6-austin-texas-1983-1984-the-blue-lotus-speaks/

The Blue Lotus Speaks Chapter 5: OBERLIN FUCKING COLLEGE

https://tchiya.wordpress.com/2014/08/08/the-blue-lotus-speaks-chapter-5-oberlin-fucking-college/

The Blue Lotus Speaks: END THE SILENCE, END THE VIOLENCE

https://tchiya.wordpress.com/the-blue-lotus-speaks-end-the-silence-end-the-violence/

Tchiya Amet El Maat

Who is the Blue Lotus and why does she speak? The Blue Lotus is the Collective Consciousness of All the Sadness and Sense of Loss from The Womb that holds the memories and stories of My Bloodline and all of My Past Lives. It is the Voice of ALL Wombs that know violation. She is Speaking because she can no longer carry the pain and it must be released. This Voice, This Song must be heard. She sings in Ancient Tongues and Languages. She brings Healing and Consciousness that becomes the Oneness. Hotep

The Blue Lotus Speaks: ENDING THE SILENCE, ENDING THE VIOLENCE. Who’s Who of Violations (chapter 4)

1495959_828794433832462_284494680875875373_oGood Rising. Great Awakening. UNFORGETTABLE SIRIUS RISNG AND 53RD BIRTHDAY. ENDING OF MY CHIRON RETURN.

 

Please read
Reggae on the River Reflections. Part 1 and

Reggae on the River Reflections. Part 2

with Cat from Third World! First Reggae Band I ever saw perform, or was even aware of!

with Cat from Third World! First Reggae Band I ever saw perform, or was even aware of!

Also, please read previous Blue Lotus Speaks posts:

Chapter 1 and

Chapter 2.

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Tchiya Amet Day

guess chapter 3 is about Reggae on the River, but here is link again…

Chapter 3

 

 

 

did Tchiya pose for this year's poster????

did Tchiya pose for this year’s poster????

 

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Tchiya Amet, Etana and Majic

Tchiya Amet, Etana and Majic

THE BLUE LOTUS SPEAKS: ENDING THE SILENCE, ENDING THE VIOLENCE: Chapter 4: WHO’S WHO OF VIOLATIONS

The Blue Lotus Speaks Chapter 5: OBERLIN FUCKING COLLEGE.

These are posts that I was compelled to make on fb. now all in one place…..
IF YOU WERE THERE, I NEED YOUR HELP. PLEASE READ AND POST ABOUT MY SEXUAL MOLESTATION/ASSAULT/VIOLATION EXPERIENCE THAT TOOK PLACE ON SUNDAY. I FROZE, AND DID NOT REPORT UNTIL YESTERDAY, THE DAY AFTER MY BIRTHDAY.. THERE WERE OTHER COMPLAINTS, SO WE MUST FIND HIM. PLEASE HELP BY SHARING, REPOSTING, AND END THE SILENCE, END THE VIOLENCE. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TCHIYA AMET……RISE AGAIN TRUTH!
https://tchiya.wordpress.com/2014/08/08/reggae-on-the-river-2014-reflections-update/

After Tchiya's gig at Chicago hard Rick Cafe July, 27 2013

After Tchiya’s gig at Chicago hard Rick Cafe July, 27 2013

 

HOW MANY OF YOU REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN DOGON SIRIUS OPENED UP FOR THE KILLER BEES AT THE CONTINENTAL CLUB BACK IN THE DAY????? END THE SILENCE END THE VIOLENCE!!! the same thing happened to me: only this time it was JOHN NICHOLSON, the best friend and college roommate of my husband/drummer at the time, MARIO VELA. John walked up to me, grabbed my breast then walked away. In front of everyone. DOODLEBUG was sitting right next to me. When I went to tell Mario, he said that John had already explained and that I was making a big deal out of nothing. WE HAD A HUGE FIGHT IN THE ALLEY?? DO YOU RECALL?????

John’s sister later contacted us and told us that John had been arrested for being a peeping tom and had actually entered one lady’s apartment. ENDING THE SILENCE. NO LONGER PROTECTING THIS BULLSHIT COWARDICE BEHAVIOR.

 

one nation

 

Dogon Sirius The Band

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JUST SPOKE TO THE MATEEL COMMUNITY CENTER. THEY ARE ON IT. WILL GET A CALL FROM ATTORNEY VERY SOON. I AM LOOKING TO HIRE A CRIMINAL SKETCH ARTIST. GRATITUDE FOR THIS ADVERSITY…..

 

And who was the coward that beat me up when I lived in Austin, Texas? NELSON JOHNSON. HE WAS A PRETTY BROWN BELLBOY THAT WORKED AT THE HYAT REGENCY AUSTIN, RIGHT THERE ON TOWN LAKE. HE WAS A WINDSURFER. ANOTHER SO CALLED BOYFRIEND. I DID FILE A POLICE REPORT THAT TIME. I was such a mess, I got a restraining order against him, YET STILL WNE TO VISIT HIM AT WORK! LOL!!! ENDING THE SILENCE, ENDING THE VIOLENCE. Y’ALL JABE PUSHED ME TOO FAR….

 


 

I am taking a break, but there is one story I do not know if I am ready to tell yet. Going out into the garden….

 

END THE SILENCE, END THE VIOLENCE.

Tchiya Amet El Maat, which means, Rise Again Truth of Maat

HOTEP.

 

 

 

 

 

End the Silence, End the Violence! The Blue Lotus Speaks….

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The Blue Lotus Speaks on June 7th, Tchiya Amet Day.

Thirteen years ago on this day, Mayor Kirk Watson was in the practice of assigning musical bands their own day. Since the name of the music project at the time,Tchiya Amet, has the same name that I do, I was given my own Day. I have never really paid attention to this fact until a few months ago.

Tchiya Amet Day
My first thought was to arrange a mini festival version of what I used to do when I lived in Austin. But Rosewood Pavilion was booked for the entire month due to Juneteenth.

It took awhile to connect with Harold McMillan, founder and director of Kenny Dorham’s Back Yard.

 

1106 E. 11th Street
Austin, Tx 78702

Synchronistically, it was while working with Harold on the Clarksville Jazz Festival (1993) that I became inspired to create and produce the Marcus Mosiah Garvey Appreciation Days (1993-1994).   Anyway, by the time I had connected with Harold, the concept of the Day had transformed into a musical day of healing, and a day of speaking about a subject that is currently in the news:

SEXUAL ASSAULT ON COLLEGE CAMPUSES.

Read a few articles here:

Task Force named at Oberlin College

Does the Ivy League Have a Sexual Assault Problem?

Memorandum — Establishing a White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault

NOT ALONE: The First Report of the White House Task Force to Protect Students From Sexual Assault 

Sexual violence is more than just a crime against individuals. It threatens our families, it threatens our communities; ultimately, it threatens the entire country. It tears apart the fabric of our communities. And that’s why we’re here today — because we have the power to do something about it as a government, as a nation. We have the capacity to stop sexual assault, support those who have survived it, and bring perpetrators to justice.

President Barack Obama, January 22, 2014

(Hey I just thought of another synchronicity: President Obama and I are born one day apart: he is August 4, 1961 and I am August 5, 1961. What a difference a day makes…..)

Freedom from sexual assault is a basic human right… a nation’s decency is in large part measured by how it responds to violence against women… our daughters, our sisters, our wives, our mothers, our grandmothers have every single right to expect to be free from violence and sexual abuse.

Vice President Joe Biden, January 22, 2014

NotAlone.gov

Austin Chronicle: Fighting Sexual Assault
Amid growing national momentum, UT-Austin takes steps to protect incoming students

 

You see, this year also marks the 30th anniversary of the 3 times that I was assaulted while a student at UT Austin. It has taken me this long to speak about it, or to take action, or to bring the incident into my musical life. Or let alone, to express it in my music. I have done a great deal of healing since it was first brought to my attention that even if it is someone that you know that slips you a mickey, it is still rape. I had basically been living with undiagnosed PTSD for 25 years until my former husband and life partner of 20 years brought this to my attention. In a flash, I instantly knew why I had been having such a difficult time in life. Anger, mood swings, depression, isolation, low self esteem, etc. You might be saying you had no idea…..

 

 

This revelation was in 2005. Shortly after that, everything began to unravel. Everything that had been built on an illusion. And many new wonderful cycles and experiences began. Flash forward 9 years to the present moment. Since I first had the inspiration to come to Austin for this Day, I knew that I wanted to start speaking out and helping others. Turn this poison into medicine. I knew that this was the next step in my healing: telling our stories helps us and it also helps others. One of the incidents involves an individual that is now a celebrity, and I continue to be triggered weekly, or even daily. When I called a hotline for guidance last week, I was instructed to never tell my story. How ironic, for the past 30 years, I have lived in fear of speaking out, and now that I am ready, I am told to remain silent. Well, I cannot. I want to see to it that with all of this talk going on about sexual assault on campus, that there are protocols for those that step forward many years later. Right now, let me tell you, there ain’t much….Come to think of it, there wasn’t much support back then either, but that is another blog entry. Or chapter.

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here is the slideshare invitation

Blue Lotus Musical Healing with Tchiya Amet

 

the Press Release.doc
the Press Release.pdf

 

The Blue Lotus Speaks: End the Silence, End the Violence
June 7, 2014
Tchiya Amet Day!
3-8 pm at Kenny Dorham’s Back Yard
1106 E. 11th Street     Austin, Tx 78702
Donations Accepted: Proceeds benefit Safe Place.

 

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Another synchronicity, Harold was on staff at UT when I was a grad student. He was one of the first staff members that I became acquainted with. Even when I had my first job as a waitress at Wildflowers, the Whole Foods Restaurant back in the day, he had a band that would come play music there. We even played together in the band called One Nation.

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 (Harold is the second dread from the right)

If you like my music, and/or care about this cause, or perhaps you are in need of some healing, or maybe you are interested in Cosmic Sound Healing, or for any other reason that I have yet to mention here, do come on through! Maybe simply because we haven’t seen each other in 13 years (!!), I’d love to see you….. Or, perhaps you would like to perform a song, a poem, a collaboration, or present your own healing technique, please contact me at amet13 at tchiya.com. and also 7079726831. The other reason I am doing this is because I need support, too. Even after all of these years. For more information, visit tchiya.com and cosmic.tchiya.com

 

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I have a funny feeling that this is only the beginning….

 

Love and Light, Tchiya